Still Friends With Your Ex? This is What Science Says About You

Being a friend with your ex is a waste of time. You broke up for a reason, or at least in my humble opinion. But a new study has shed some light on the psychology of people who try and stick it out after things have gone awry.

Researchers at Oakland University asked a sample of 350 people why they stayed together and ordered these into categories. Then 500 other people then rated these reasons in order of importance. This group of 500 also had their own personality traits mapped to see if there was a correlation with their answers and their gender and personality.

In general people rated “reliability/sentimentality” as the main reason for sticking around and Pragmatism and sexual access were rated as the least important.

People with low scores in honesty and humility were most likely to cite sexual access as their reason for maintaining the broken relationship.

However what it found was that people who had a dark personality type were more likely to cite pragmatic reasons for sticking with someone. So if they thought they could still squeeze something out of the relationship, or saw some sort of gain from it, they’d hold on.

People with low scores in honesty and humility were most likely to cite sexual access as their reason for maintaining the broken relationship.

Although guys were more likely to rate sexual access and other pragmatic factors higher than girls are.

According to the study the findings are consistent with previous research and suggest that post relationship friendships may provide opportunity for ex-partners to exchange desirable resources (e.g., love, status, information, money, sex) after the breakup.

So while most people will maintain their friendship “for the benefit of the group” or whatever, there’s a small select number who are just trying to squeeze a bit more money and sex out of you.