No matter if you are single or happily coupled up, chances are you have at some stage asked a friend or family member the big question; “How did you know that your husband/ wife was the one?” As humans who desire social contact and connection, we all dream of finding that special somebody and the idea of a soulmate is fairly well-respected in modern times.
No matter if you believe in the idea of soulmates or not, the truth is that some people are better together than and others and sadly, some relationships are almost doomed to fail due to the incompatibilities of the couple. So how do you really know if your special someone is ‘the one’? Some people swear that they just ‘knew’, but chances are that their partner ticked these boxes.
1. Communication is good
It probably comes as no surprise that couples who have great relationships generally have well-established and effective patterns of communication. According to wellness coach Elizabeth Scott, when couples fight, having good communication skills can be the difference between a relationship breakup and the fight helping to actually make the relationship stronger. “Poor communication skills, disagreements, and misunderstandings can be a source of anger and distance or a springboard to a stronger relationship and happier future,” Scott wrote on Very Well. If you and your significant other are able to communicate clearly and effectively when things go wrong, that’s a strong sign that you are in a healthy and functioning relationship.
2. You have similar values
No matter how attractive, funny or caring a person is, if they do not have similar values to you then things may become difficult in the long term. In a recent Huffington Post article, relationship expert Dr. Margaret Paul explained the importance of having aligning values with your partner. “Similar values around areas such as politics, child-rearing, health and nutrition, abortion, religion or spirituality, and money are a big help in avoiding major conflicts around these important areas of life,” she wrote. While your stance on things may not seem like a big deal during the dating phase of the relationship, having poorly aligned values could makes things very difficult as the relationship progresses. On the same page as your partner? This could be a sign that they are right for you.