So he pops the question and your bestie says yes. For about three seconds you are crying of joy, but before long you’re crying for other reasons. While it’s undoubtedly an honour to be asked to be a bridesmaid, the role is no walk in the park.
In the words of the critically acclaimed High School Musical, “we’re all in this together,” and no matter what bridesmaid struggle you are facing, rest assured that you girl, are not alone. Any of these sound familiar?
1. Can we please talk about something else now?
Okay this one may sound a tad selfish, but honestly depending on how long your bestie’s engagement lasts, you could be talking about nothing but weddings for the next year or so. Sure sometimes this is okay, but sometimes you might just want to talk about other important things… like fluffy dogs or hot blondie from work.
2. Where did my money even go?
Hens night, wedding present, dress, shoes and fake tan – get used to having zero dollars in the bank. While it’s always worth the cost, the struggle becomes far too real when you can no longer afford your morning coffee because you’ve spent your last dollars buying questionably shaped straws.
3. But it’s 4 AM…
Sleep? What is sleep? As it gets closer to he big day chances are that your bestie is going to become kind of, uhhh, high strung. Because you are a fantastic friend of course you will wake up to send reassuring replies to calm her down no matter what time it is, however when you start drifting off in your meeting the next morning it becomes slightly harder to remain positive.
4. OMG are you married too?
This question is of course totally fine if you are happily married or in a relationship. If you are single however, whole different story. Note to every person in the entire world ever – just because the best man is also single it does not mean that the next wedding will be you and him. Kind match-making nana, I love you but please, please stop.
5. Who are you and what have you done with my sweet friend?
We’ve all heard of bridezilla and sometimes it’s even kind of funny to laugh at normally calm women losing it over napkins. When it’s your bestie however, whole different story. While you love her eternally and would stick by her no mater what, don’t be surprised if you find yourself wishing that this new dragon-like creature would disappear and your otherwise amazing friend would return.
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