While nobody ever marries their significant other thinking they will end up in the office of a marriage therapist, desperately trying to save their marriage, the truth of the matter is that marriage is damn hard.
Often a last resort for couples who are facing significant problems in their relationship, marriage therapists are well versed in the kinds of problems that couples face and of course, the best ways to overcome these problems.
In an interview with The Huffington Post, psychologist and marriage mediator Kristin Davin revealed that the most common reason that women leave their marriages is because they feel like they are being taken for granted and that the entire responsibility of the marriage rests on their shoulders.
“For a marriage to work, both spouses need to show up,” Davin told The Huffington Post. “It requires attention, effort, intention, and strong communication. At the end of the day, many wives take stock of all they do for their families and wonder where their spouse has been.” After years of this imbalance, many women eventually say, “Why bother?”
Marriage therapist Christine Wilke says that the best and only way to overcome this problem and save the marriage is to begin to communicate more effectively. “Good communication skills are such a key ingredient in a healthy marriage,” says Wilke. “So many women don’t feel seen, heard, or validated in the relationship.”