No matter if you are single, dating or married, we all want to know what it takes to make our relationships succeeded. While it’s always great to enlist the help of a professional relationship expert, writer Macy Williams decided to go back to basics and went on a mission to ask the happiest couples in her life what their secret to happiness was.
“My entire life, I’ve been surrounded by successful relationships,” Williams wrote. “My parents are just as in love with one another as the day they met. My grandparents will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary this month. My best friend has lived with her boyfriend in Sweden for years. So what do all of these very different unions have in common?”
After talking to the couples she she looked up to, Williams found one common factor – the couples who were the happiest were the ones who made an conscious effort to communicate every single day. “Everyone listed off a few different reasons, but they all stated one fact that was the same: they talk to their significant others,” she wrote. “I mean really talk to each other and hear what their partners have to say.”
We all know that every couple fights, however according to wellness coach Elizabeth Scott good communication will mean that your fights bring you closer together, instead of tearing your relationship apart. ” Poor communication skills, disagreements, and misunderstandings can be a source of anger and distance or a springboard to a stronger relationship and happier future,” Scott wrote on Very Well.
To ensure the best possible communication Scott offers a few simple tips.
Focus on the issue at hand
“Sometimes it’s tempting to bring up past seemingly related conflicts when dealing with current ones,” Scott writes. “Unfortunately, this often clouds the issue and makes finding mutual understanding and a solution to the current issue less likely, and makes the whole discussion more taxing and even confusing. Try not to bring up past hurts or other topics.”