We all know being in the dating scene is fraught with awkward first dates and mass confusion. There’s the constant worry that you might be into someone else a lot more than they’re into you. If you go online there’s pages and pages talking about all the subtle hints and body language we give to people we like. However, it turns out there is another way! It’s all through the voice.
Okay, so we all know males and females have different vocal pitches. Female voices have a higher pitch while males have a lower.
These differences are thought to be because of evolutionary pressures such as mating choices. In the animal world, pitch is associated with larger animals that can cause a bigger threat.
So by lowering their pitch, males can show their physical dominance in front of competitors and appear more desirable to females. As a result, women find men with lower-pitched voices more attractive. It’s the opposite for men, who are more attracted to women with higher-pitched voices.
Turns out we also have the ability to change our voices in order to sound more ‘attractive’ without consciously realising.
When we’re interested in someone we tend to speak in a higher or lower tone than we otherwise would.
Matching their voice
Another really interesting thing that happens with people we like is we start to mimic the way the other person speaks.
This can be through a range of different things such as – speech rate, pitch, intonations or language. Turns out this can happen in as little as an hour of talking with someone.
One study found that people try to be more similar to a person they are attracted to. So in order to score another date we may try and sound similar to the other person.
The opposite of this also happens. If we’re not attracted to someone or want to be less similar we may try to sound more distinct without realising it.
All of this goes on sub-consciously which is the most amazing part of all. So if you notice your date doing any of these things with their voices chances are a second date may soon be in your future.