Are you still friends with your exes? Because according to a new study in Personality and Individual Differences, psychopaths and narcissists still benefit from their relationships after they’ve finished. The participants were questioned as to why they stayed friends with an ex and then a new group of participants were asked to give ratings of importance for each reason that the former group provided.
There were seven categories of reasons for staying friends. The reason that was rated of the highest importance was that the ex is reliable, trustworthy and of sentimental value. On the other hand, the lowest ratings were given to reasons such as pragmatism and practicality. There’s no surprise that more men than women rated pragmatism and sexual access as reasons to pursue a friendship after the relationship.
Those who marked pragmatism and sexual access as a priority also produced results of “dark personality traits” such as psychopathy and narcissism.
“Individuals who score higher on measures of dark personality tend to choose friends for strategic purposes. Thus, it is likely that these traits will be associated with valuing friendships for utilitarian or instrumental reasons, such as to maintain sexual access.”
Long story short, don’t be friends with your exes and close that book.