Couples counsellor, Ian Kerner recommends us to unfriend our spouses on Facebook. Why? Because of mystery.
“I realized for a little while with my own wife that I didn’t really want her to be my friend on Facebook,” he told Public Radio International. “I didn’t want all of that extra information. If anything I wanted less information — I wanted more mystery and more unpredictability. I didn’t want to know that she was posting about being tired or having her third coffee for the day. So I specifically unfriended her during my brief tenure on Facebook. It’s something that I do recommend to couples.”
However, if you feel that unfriending your spouse is a bit too harsh, then maybe put down internet-based entertainment. “When you add up all of the periods of distraction that devices give us, you might have a lot of time that you could put towards your relationship,” he says. “We live in a culture where sex ruts are epidemic and people go to bed too tired to make love — they have no time for each other. And yet they’re spending hours a day on social media, on blogs and on Netflix.”