We’ve all seen the movie and we all remember that beautiful moment when SATC’s Miranda shares with two woeful twenty-somethings that ‘he is just not that into you’. It’s a pretty harsh reality and unfortunately it is just getting ten times worse with a society that is so focused on their phones and computer screens. The days of late night phone calls are replaced with text conversations and meeting up face-to-face isn’t necessary when you have Skype of face time.
We are a society that doesn’t need to make time to see our S.O or date any more, we can be chatting to them when we are at work, in the bathroom and with other people we might like a little more …
Whether you are dating a new person and trying to figure out if they are ‘just that into you’ or whether you are deciding where your current relationship is going, this advice applies to you.
Here is it, the hard truth.
If he doesn’t make an effort to actually see you, then darling, he’s just not that into you.
It might seem obvious and a little silly, but think about it for a minute. Do you actually see each other that often, I’m not talking about texting, skyping, facebook messaging, face timing or tagging each other in memes. I mean face-to-face, hand-in-hand dates?
Of course there are circumstances that make this a little more difficult, but what we need to stop doing is making excuses.
Ronnie Ann Ryan, dating expert, shared with Your Tango her thoughts.
“You tell yourself it’s obvious that he likes you. Why else would he spend all that time texting you, right?” she wrote.
We have all fallen into this trap, multiple times – Boy meets girl, they connect, they text and “call on occasion” but then he gets busy with work (come on, how many of us have used this as an excuse not to do something). Before we know it we are in love, deciding whether we would take his last name and reading his star sign (who cares if it says we aren’t compatible).
So, what does Ryan say we need to think about?
“If a man is genuinely interested in you, he’ll make time to see you.”
There it is. Simple and sweet. Right?