In today’s society, the act of getting married is increasingly foregone in favour of long-term de-facto ‘boyfriend/girlfriend’ relationships. It’s a funny thing that seems to have come about only in the last twenty years or so, despite the status of ‘being married’ still being desired by a lot of people.
New research actually shows that getting – and staying – married is one of the best things you can do. Peter Pearson, therapist and co-founder of the Couples Institute says: “In all marriages, you have so many interdependent interactions, from roles and responsibilities in the house to emotional and sexual aspects of the relationship. Your future is really tied to each other in so many ways.”
Of course, this is much easier said than done. It’s very easy to get stuck in unhealthy behavioral patterns. Pearson says 60% of couples who come to him are stuck in one of two toxic dynamics: conflict-avoidant and hostile-dependent.