What the Way You Sleep Says About You & Your Partner

Everything you do says something about you. The way you pose with someone in a photo can give away how you feel about them. Do you hover away from them or lean in? With that in mind LittleThings pulled together how different ways you sleep with someone can reflect how your relationship is doing.

The Space Hog


“If a partner takes the “starfish position,” one in which they sprawl out and hog the bed, this means that they tend to be selfish — especially if they begin to push the other partner so they’re hanging off the bed.”

The Tangle


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“This extremely intimate position is even more rare than the Spoon. It tends to happen when there is either intense emotions at play (like after lovemaking) or at the start of a romantic relationship.”

“Some couples maintain it throughout their relationship but it isn’t necessarily a good thing. According to Elizabeth Flynn Campbell, a New York psychotherapist, “[the couple] could be overly enmeshed, too dependent on each other to sleep apart.” ”

The Chase


“This is like spooning, but it’s when one person is in pursuit of the other. One person has drifted to the other side of the bed, and the other one is “chasing” them.”

“…the person who is being chased wants to be pursued, or is playing hard to get.”

This one is also considered an “illegal Spooning” as one person is totally not into it and has retreated to the far side of the bed for space.



We’re all pretty familiar with this one.

According to a study done by relationship psychologist Corrine Sweet, the position is only adopted by a fifth (or 18 percent) of couples and demonstrates a dynamic in which, “ One partner takes a protective stance over the other.”

The Liberty Lovers


“couples that sleep back-to-back without touching are “connected and secure in themselves. This position shows both closeness and independence in the relationship.”

It’s also popular, 27 percent of couples prefer this sleeping style.”

The Unraveling Knot


“Believe it or not, this position is a sign of a stronger relationship than The Tangle. Yet only eight percent of couples adopt this two-part position. Dr. Sweet said it’s, “A compromise between intimacy and independence, allowing for the best of both worlds.” ”

The Back Kissers


This one is where you sleep facing opposite directions with your butts touching.

“According to Dr. Sweet, this means, “Both partners are relaxed and comfortable with one another.” Yet this position is more common amongst newer couples, or those that have been together for under a year, rather than a more long-term duo.”

The Leg Hug


“According to Wood, if your partner plays footsie with you in bed, or intertwines their legs with yours, it means they crave an emotional or sexual connection”

The Loose Spoon


“The loose spoon is typically what a couples that are a fans of spooning eventually do once their relationship matures and each individual wants to revert to a position that produces the best quality sleep, said Paul Rosenblatt, author of Two in a Bed: The Social System of Couple Bed Sharing.”

The Nuzzle

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“This is a very nurturing posture that creates a sense of protection. Shirley Glass, a psychologist and martial therapist, also notes, “There’s a high level of trust here,” as this snuggling position has a “strengthening sense of comradeship and protection.” “