Humans are complex animals and when it comes to relationships and attraction, it sometimes feels like you need a degree in psychology to understand what the heck is going on in the minds of others. From a killer smile, to a great body, to a good sense of humor, we all have qualities that we are attracted to and that we consider to be important when looking for a potential partner.
When looking to attract a potential partner, it’s no secret that women often put a lot of emphasis on their physical appearance, loading on the makeup and trying to look our best for dates. I even have friends who refused to let their boyfriends see them without makeup during their first few months of dating, or woke up early to do their hair before their man woke up in the morning, fearful of what would happen if their boyfriend saw them in their natural state.
Proving once and for all that physical appearance simply isn’t everything, a study out of Arizona State University found that more than anything else, humans are attracted to potential partners who are confident. While the study found that both men and women do value physical attractiveness, income, education and intelligence in a potential partner, confidence proved to be one of the most attractive qualities that a person could have and extremely important to almost everybody.
In a recent article for Huffington Post, Alexis Meads, a professional life and wellness coach spoke about what it really means to be a confident woman and the traits that a confident person has. Authenticity, compassion and the ability to be happy even when you don’t receive praise from others, were all said to be signs of a confident person and in particular, a confident woman.
“We all know women who turn heads when they walk into a room. They aren’t necessarily the prettiest, the thinnest, or even the most successful, but they have a certain energy,” Meads wrote.
So the moral of the story? If you’re looking to get into a relationship this year, or even improve your current relationship, working on your confidence could be a great place to start. After all, looks will fade but character is forever.