It’s a hard situation to be in. Maybe you have your eye on somebody but it seems that they don’t even know you exist, or perhaps you’ve just started dating someone but you don’t know how to take things to the next level. I always thought that falling in love just kind of happened, but on closer inspection there seems to be a clear science behind it all.
A recent Business Insider article examined the science of falling in love and pointed out a few very useful studies that may help all of us hopeless romantics get a big step towards the love we are hoping to find.
It may sound strange but studies have shown that it’s much easier to fall in love with somebody if you are warm. Yale psychologist John Bargh conducted a number of studies on the topic and found that there is a link between temperature and behaviour. Apparently when we feel warm we are more inclined to act warmly towards others and when we are cold, well our personalities can also get a tad icey. If you really want to win favour with your date, stick to environments that are warm or even foods that are warming.
Apparently the attitude you have on dates is one of the most important aspects of attraction. A large 2010 study found that men were far more attracted to women who demonstrated positive personality traits and had great personalities. The study involved over 2,100 male university students and overwhelmingly concluded that a positive personality really does matter. At least for the first little while in the relationship, it could be a good idea to think twice before complaining about your job, family or that annoying flatmate. Don’t go so far as to cover up who you are, but focus on being the positive, fun person that you truly are and don’t let the little things get in the way of a great date.
Maintain eye contact
If you really like somebody it can be hard to actually look them in the eye, but apparently eye contact is a key part of attraction. Zick Rubin, a social psychologist, conducted a study back in 1970 on 158 college-age couples and found that couples who made more frequent eye contact reported having stronger and healthier relationships. Other studies have come to similar conclusions, with psychologists suggesting that eye contact and feelings of intimacy are closely linked.