Is this the worst dating app experience ever?

Everyone has had an experience where someone else loses their rag over text over something completely minor, or at least knows someone who has. It seems to be a trend now where guys blow up on dating apps like Tinder or Bumble after not quite getting their way.

Bumble is a little different, in the sense that it has a “women first” rule, as to try to quell the instant hemorrhage of unsolicited nude images from guys who seem to think this is a good move. But this mister Connor had different things in mind after Ashley opened up the floor for conversation:






Charming. We could REALLY learn a thing or two.

But not to worry, the Bumble team actually cottoned on to what was happening, and sent an open letter to Connor. The letter reads:

Dear Connor,

It has been brought to our attention that you lost your cool on one of our female users named Ashley. She made small talk, you felt personally attacked.

She mentioned her work day and asked about yours; you assumed that she was prying into your financial status.

We are going to venture a guess into the state of mind of Ashley here, given that we are all working women ourselves. Take a seat, because this concept may blow your mind.

Women nowadays work. It’s happened over time, we know, but a vast majority of women from our generation have jobs.

With that in mind — and knowing that Ashley simply mentioned work in the conversation — we can gather that she wasn’t hoping to figure out if your wallet was sizeable enough for her to move into your house and start cooking dinner for you after vacuuming your living room while you clock in a 9 to 5 work day.

Instead, Ashley was (wait for it, Connor, because this is where things really get interesting), viewing herself as an equal.

It might sound crazy, but people connect over the basic routines of life. You know… the weather, working out, grabbing a drink, eating, and working.

And while you may view this as “neo-liberal, Beyonce, feminist-cancer”, and rant about the personal wounds you are trying to heal from classic “entitled gold-digging whores,” we are going to keep working.

We are going to expand our reach and make sure that women everywhere receive the message that they are just as empowered in their personal lives as they are in the workplace.

We are going to continue to build a world that makes small-minded, misogynist boys like you feel outdated.

We are going to hope that one day, you come around. We hope that the hate and resentment welling up inside of you will subside and you’ll be able to engage in everyday conversations with women without being cowardice to their power.

But until that day comes, Connor, consider yourself blocked from Bumble.

Never yours,

The Bumble Hive



Brilliant! Good to see the app developers actively making sure their users are safe and happy.

All image credit: Bumble