Give and Gain Support because being a Woman is Hard

I Believe You | It’s Not Your Fault is a blog that was formed a year ago in mid July 2014.

There are numerous private Facebook groups for women. I for one, am in one. In this particular secret online group where women writers mainly complained about their menses and other miscellaneous problems, the following post opened the flood gates of mass outrage and support.

“My daughter’s friend was sexually harassed by some boys at school and feels like it’s her fault. She’s 12. Her parents are conservative evangelicals, and there’s really no adult in her life who’s even remotely versed in concepts like victim-blaming and slut-shaming and boundaries and consent. She doesn’t want to talk about it and I won’t violate that request, but I wish I could slip some resources her way. Is there anything out there like a Girl’s Guide to Rape Culture? That explains it in an accessible, empowering way? I just want her (and all the other kids, of all genders, who are in similar situations) to know: This isn’t your fault. I believe you.”

It’s for the new generation of coming-of-age girls to learn and receive support.

The blog is a compilation of real-life stories by anonymous women writers. Using their life experiences, it forms a community where strangers tell their secrets, ask questions and offer solidarity with a twist of humour. It’s for the new generation of coming-of-age girls to learn and receive support.

Here’s an extract of the post It Was Easier to Give in Than Keep Running. You’ll probably be able to identify with the story in one way or another:

“In first grade, a boy named John— a notorious troublemaker—systematically chased every girl in our class during recess trying to kiss her on the lips. Most gave in eventually. It was easier to give in than keep running. When it was my turn, I turned and faced him, grabbed his glasses off his weasel face, and stomped on them on the hard blacktop. He ran to the principal’s office and cried.”