Single mum Estella Havsham sent her disobedient 13-year-old son a letter that would really put it in perspective. In his stage of teenage rebellion, her son was skipping assignments and claiming he could pay his own way with his earnings from his YouTube videos.
In response to his unappreciative attitude, she sent him a handwritten letter outlining the bill for Aaron to pay as a flatmate. She posted it to Facebook under the name Heidi Johnson.
It reads the following:
Since you seem to have forgotten that you are only 13 and I’m the parent, and that you won’t be controlled, I guess you will need to learn a lesson in independence. Also, as you threw in my face that you are making money now, it will be easier to buy back all the items I bought for you in the past.
If you would like your lamp/lightbulbs or access to the internet, you will need to pay your share of costs:
Also you will need to empty the trash Mon, Wed & Friday as well as sweep and vacuum those days. You will need to keep your bathroom clean weekly, prepare your own meals and clean up after yourself. If you fail to do so I will charge you a $30 maid fee for every day I have to do it.
If you decide you would rather be MY CHILD again instead of a roommate, we can negotiate terms.
In receiving this token of tough love, her son crumpled up the note and stormed out. However, in an update, she wrote that her son apologized and asked what he could do to earn back the electronics, his favourite sheets and some clothes she took back.
The letter was intended for only her friends and family to view but it has since gone viral. Estella has received a mix of responses about her parenting style. She posted a follow up note for her critics and supporters explaining her parenting philosophy. She wrote, ” let’s get serious! I am not going to put my 13 year old on the street if he can’t pay his half of the rent. I am not wanting him to pay anything. I want him to take pride in his home, his space, and appreciate the gifts and blessings we have.”